Question Bank

Daily Routine

1. Is it important for you to have a structured routine throughout your days?

  • Yes. I like to plan my day ahead of time and accomplish the things I set out to do.
  • Somewhat. I like to know what I'm going to do in a day but leave myself open to new plans or events.
  • No. I like to do things differently every day.

2. Would it be problematic if your partner had a very different routine than you?

  • No. We can go about our days independently and still have a perfect relationship.
  • Not really, unless it interfered with my own plans throughout the day.
  • Somewhat. I'd like us to be on the same page for the most part.
  • Yes. I want us to share a routine so we can spend more time together.

3. Would you consider yourself a morning person?

  • Absolutely.
  • Somewhat. I like being up early so I can get more done throughout the day.
  • Not really. I have a hard time getting up and sometimes feel cranky in the morning.
  • No. I would prefer to be awake throughout the night and wake up later in the day.

4. What is your sleep schedule like?

  • Steady. I go to bed and wake up at roughly the same time every day.
  • It varies between the week and weekends.
  • Hectic. Sometimes I go to bed very late without meaning to.
  • I don't keep a set schedule. I sleep whenever I need to.

5. On the scale from 1 to 4 (4 being the best organized), how well do you keep your stuff organized? (e.g. clothes, household supplies, instruments, make up, paperwork, etc.)

  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4

6. Is keeping your house/room clean important to you?

  • Yes, I keep my house/room spic-and-span.
  • Yes, but my standards of cleanliness are not extremely high.
  • Not really, my house/room is kind of messy most of the time.
  • I don't care if my house/room is clean or not.

7. Is making bed important to you?

  • Yes, I make my bed every morning or after I get up.
  • Kind of, I make my bed most of the time.
  • No, but I'll expect my partner to make our bed.
  • No, I don't care if the bed is made.

8. Which responsibility would you rather take over?

  • Preparing daily meals
  • Keeping house clean
  • Shopping for supplies and groceries
  • Maintenance and yard work

9. Do you feel like changing your daily routine?

  • No, I am comfortable in my daily routine.
  • I like to introduce changes to my daily routine once in a while.
  • If I could change my lifestyle, I would probably change my daily routine a lot.

10. Are you a "list" person? Do you create shopping lists, to-do lists, etc?

  • No, I am too spontaneous to create lists.
  • I create lists in my head.
  • Yes, I make lists on paper or in my phone.
  • Only once in a while when I think it is quite important.

11. What would you do if you felt your partner does less around the house than you do and availability is not the issue?

  • I would tell my partner it isn't fair and that s/he needs to do more.
  • I would probably pick up the slack.
  • I would sit down with my partner and work out a plan outlining who does what around the house.

12. What would you do if your partner were snoring?

  • Move to another bedroom
  • Get a pair of ear plugs
  • Take a potent sleeping aide
  • Recommend professional consultation/treatment

13. Which habit would feel most annoying to you?

  • Your partner leaves the table after finishing eating without picking up dishes.
  • Your partner leaves the bathroom door open when doing number 2.
  • Your partner clutters all horizontal surfaces with personal items.
  • Your partner uses your toothpaste and your hairbrush.

14. What would you rather do on your day off with your partner?

  • Visit family
  • Go to the mall
  • Do household chores
  • Go to a museum, exhibition, or concert

15. Which situation would you appreciate most?

  • Your partner has folded and put up your laundry for you.
  • Your partner has cooked dinner for you.
  • Your partner bought you a small but special present for no special occasion.
  • Your partner bought tickets for a desirable concert/game.

16. How much interaction of your partner with the cell phone can you take?

  • I am OK when my partner checks the phone every 1 to 2 hours.
  • I am OK when my partner checks the phone every 20-30 minutes.
  • I am OK if my partner is on the phone all the time just like me.

17. Your partner is avoiding watching your favorite show/sporting event with you. Which of the following behaviors would frustrate you most?

  • Your partner is texting someone on the phone.
  • Your partner goes to the kitchen and starts doing dishes or goes outside and starts raking leaves.
  • Your partner is stuck in the restroom for the duration of the show.
  • Your partner is dozing off sitting next to you.

18. Which would frustrate you the most?

  • Being with someone who is lazy with their hygiene.
  • Being with someone who is messy.
  • Being with someone who interrupts your daily routine.
  • Being with someone who doesn't have a routine.

19. How would you describe your expectations of your partner's participation in daily chores?

  • I expect my partner to be proactive with doing daily chores.
  • I expect my partner to be consistent with doing daily chores.
  • I expect my partner to do most of the daily chores.
  • I don't have specific expectations regarding daily chores.

20. If both of you and your partner disliked the same chore, what would you do?

  • Sacrifice yourself and do this chore every time it is necessary.
  • Try to compromise on 50/50 approach.
  • Find ways to convince your partner to do it most of the time.
  • Clearly communicate to your partner that this is something you are not willing to do.

21. Your brought some work home; your house is a mess and there is nothing to eat. What would you do?

  • Work, clean the house, buy food.
  • Clean the house, buy food, work.
  • Buy food, work, clean the house.
  • Buy food, work, do nothing else.