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Personality Values Beliefs

1. Which statement best describes your stand on religion?

  • In a successful relationship partners have the same religious beliefs.
  • In a successful relationship partners may have different religious beliefs and do not force their beliefs on each other.
  • I am willing to explore and possibly accept my partner's religious beliefs.
  • I will feel hurt if my partner is not willing to explore and possibly accept my religious beliefs.

2. Which statement do you agree with most?

  • Best relationship is possible when partners have similar ethnic background.
  • Best relationship is possible when partners have similar cultural background.
  • Best relationship is possible when partners have similar social background.
  • Best relationship is possible when partners have similar religious background.

3. Which trait do you find least important?

  • Honesty
  • Sense of humor
  • Generosity
  • Patience

4. What is your stance on lying?

  • Lying is always wrong.
  • White lies are OK.
  • Lying to help someone out is OK with me.
  • I sometimes use lying as a defense mechanism.

5. When do you justify the use of curse words by your partner while communicating with you?

  • Never
  • When the situation is frustrating enough and the cursing is not directed at me.
  • I can take cursing from my partner if I know I've deserved it.
  • I don't mind some harmless curse words being used in certain situations to make speech more expressive.

6. Which statement do you mostly agree with?

  • It helps the relationship when both partners are well organized.
  • It helps the relationship when both partners are spontaneous.
  • It helps the relationship when one partner is organized and one is spontaneous.

7. Is it important to you that your partner have strong political ideals?

  • Absolutely. I am very passionate about politics and want to be with someone who shares this passion.
  • Yes, this shows that my partner is concerned with what is going on in the world.
  • Not really; I am interested in politics but don't need to be with someone who shares that interest.
  • No, I don't think political values have a strong bearing on a romantic relationship.

8. Do you believe it is appropriate to question your partner's moral beliefs?

  • Yes, to better understand my partner.
  • Sometimes, if they are contradictory to my own.
  • No, my partner can have different beliefs from my own.

9. How do you express your anger?

  • I try to suppress my anger and not let others notice that I am angry.
  • I may snap and raise my voice.
  • I may yell, hit objects, or throw things.
  • I usually tell others how I feel even when I am angry.

10. Do you find it hard to forgive?

  • Yes, but I try to do it anyway.
  • Yes, and I can only forgive someone who sincerely asks for forgiveness.
  • No, when someone asks to be forgiven.
  • No, I can forgive anyone for anything.

11. Rate your empathy level on the scale from 1 to 10.

  • 1-3 I am not really empathic.
  • 4-5 I am slightly empathic.
  • 6-7 I am quite empathic.
  • 8-10 I am very empathic.

12. In percentage terms, how much would you like to know about other areas of your partner's life that do not directly involve you (job, friends, relatives, etc.)?

  • 100%
  • 80-99%
  • 50-80%
  • 0-50%

13. How would you feel if you partner made an important decision without consulting with you? (buy property, change jobs, book travel, name a child, etc.)

  • I'd be angry/sad/disappointed. This is unacceptable!
  • I'd feel annoyed but I'd try to understand my partner's reasons.
  • I think I'll feel OK if I like the final result. If not, I'll get upset.

14. What level of intelligence would you like your partner to have compared to yours?

  • I want my partner to be as intelligent as I am.
  • I don't mind if my partner is more intelligent than I am.
  • I prefer to be more intelligent than my partner.
  • Intelligence doesn't matter to me as long as I love my partner.

15. Which of the following do you fear most?

  • Becoming unemployed
  • Becoming disabled
  • Getting old
  • Being alone for the rest of my life

16. What do you usually do when feeling angry/frustrated with your partner?

  • I don't mind confrontation and a healthy verbal fight.
  • I try to hide my anger or frustration and continue to communicate with my partner.
  • I try to avoid confrontation by avoiding my partner until I calm down.
  • I try to calmly communicate my feelings to my partner.

17. Are other people able to make you change your mind?

  • No, when I've made up my mind, that's it!
  • Only when the person means a lot to me or I respect that person a lot. Besides, s/he'd better have a good argument.
  • I feel like I do change my mind a lot depending on what other people say or what I hear/read in the media/social media.
  • I may change my mind on my opinions but not on my decisions.

18. If your partner unintentionally hurt your feelings, what would you do?

  • Confront him/her and made sure s/he understands that I am hurt.
  • Swallow the hurt and ignore him/her until I get over it.
  • Pretend nothing has happened and carry on in a usual friendly manner.

19. When your partner tells you about a problem s/he dealing with, what is your typical strategy?

  • Listen, express empathy, reassure
  • Listen, comment, give advice
  • Listen, give advice supported by examples from your personal experiences, challenge

20. Imagine that one of your regular activities that you've enjoyed for years as a single person, and was initially OK with your partner, later on starts creating tension in your relationship. What would you do?

  • Give up the activity
  • Try to involve your partner in this activity
  • Try to suggest an activity for your partner that s/he can enjoy while you are busy.
  • Too bad for your partner; s/he has to accept you the way you are.

21. How would you react if your partner made a decision that you would consider ethically questionable?

  • I would point it out and try to reason to change his/her mind.
  • I would reprimand my partner and explain why his/her decision was wrong.
  • I would do nothing. My partner is free to make his/her own decisions as long as it doesn't affect our relationship/family.

22. Your partner states that s/he would rather stay home than go to your cousin's birthday out in the country. What would you do about it?

  • Let him/her stay home without much arguing.
  • Try to reason with your partner explaining the benefits of going and consequences of not going.
  • Would use some mild force: you'd better go or something else!
  • Offer exchange: if you come with me, I'll do something for you.

23. Your partner comes back from a trip and suddenly has a tattoo. What would you do?

  • I would be very enthusiastic and tell him/her I love the tattoo.
  • I would ask my partner why s/he suddenly got a tattoo without talking to me about it first.
  • I would feel very offended and get angry with my partner. This is not something you suddenly do as part of a nice holiday.

24. If your partner gave you a gift that you don't like, what would you do?

  • Show appreciation and keep the gift.
  • Tell partner that you don't like it and ask if it could be exchanged.
  • Pretend you like the gift, keep it for some time, and then try to get rid of it.

25. Is it important that your partner is an active member in the community?

  • Yes. I want to be with someone who engages with the community frequently.
  • Somewhat. If my partner is active in the community, it shows s/he cares about the people around.
  • It depends on how s/he participates with the community.
  • No. I don't care if s/he engages with the community.

26. What is your favorite holiday out of these four?

  • Halloween
  • Thanksgiving
  • Christmas/Hanukkah
  • 4th of July

27. What kind of monogamy do you believe in?

  • One partner for a life-time
  • One long-term partner at a time
  • One partner at a time
  • I don't believe in monogamy.

28. Applying the classic Four Temperament theory, a person of which temperament are you?

  • Sanguin
  • Choleric
  • Phlegmatic
  • Melancholic